Over the weekend, I came across an interesting article written by Seth Adam Smith. In the article, Seth talked about how he met his wife and the anxiety he began to feel as the days lead up to his wedding day. He shared his thoughts with his Dad and here is how his Dad responded:
“Seth, you’re being totally selfish. So I’m going to make this really simple: marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raisethem? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.”
The response from his Dad was very intriguing and on point, but what really gave me food for thought was the responses from the readers. While most people agreed, others went on to say that you can’t take the weight on of making someone else happy for that is totally THEIR responsibility. Also are you to not think about your own happiness and only worry about making the other person happy? As an unmarried woman I always believed that two complete people are to come together to create the life they want together. I always thought that there are times in your marriage and relationships in general when it won’t be about you and you will have to ‘take one for the team’ to keep the peace in your marriage. So I wonder to people who are married or in long tern relationships..what are your thoughts?